A link to share with you about a story on childbirth education:
Maybe most of these women just see the futility of going in to learn about something that DOESN'T APPLY TO THEM???
"don't make me feel guilty"...for what? Understanding the ramifications of your actions?
"don't make me feel bad about wanting an epidural?"...An epidural is a medication often used during labor which affects the entire process and all parties involved in the biology and raises the risk of cesarean if used inappropriately, i.e. the way it's currently used in American medical care.
"don't make me feel bad about choosing a cesarean"...you want surgery instead of going through a normal process. Maybe learning the facts about it isn't making you feel bad, it's making you realize that it's not the same thing as ordering a biscuit with your eggs.
Chilbirth educators aren't dismayed or upset by the amount of women going in for surgery or using drugs, they are floored at the ignorance and apathy of an entire generation of women who don't seem to give a damn about the process, the ramifications on themselves or their future health or their infants. But underlying all of this is a dark secret. It's not really just the moms who everyone is angry at. It's the system. The Obstetricians who feed the fears and cause so many of the issues through iatrogenic induction, monitoring, regulation of food and water. These women are often seeing this "way of birth" through the TV, through movies. They begin to breathe it as small girls when their first baby has a Fisher-Price bottle welded to it's hand or three different kinds of "juice" and "milk" in it's box. When we see birth, we are blinded to the ability of the woman and the normalcy of having a baby out in the middle of nowhere without doctors and a neonatal nurse and an OR. We learn to watch TV to see the "bravery" of a woman on a soap opera abandoned in a snowy mountain retreat giving birth to her infant with no power and when the channel is flipped, we see a screaming woman or worse, one lying defeated in bed, giving her life's choices away in sorrow as the overwording tells us "Well, after 3 hours with no progress, Jamie's doctor decides to do a cesarean"...
Really? Where the hell is Jamie in this process? Does she look like she wants a surgery on top of this? Did anyone talk to her, get her out of bed, feed her LUNCH and buy her some time? Her body quit and so did she.
There, lying strapped to monitors, starving for food, unable to drink more than ice chips and being told her body has failed. "here, we'll do this before something else goes wrong" and the implication is...she will never complete, never succeed. Why Try?
Because if you don't...this is what will happen to you. You will be Broken.
That's the message of a lack of childbirth education and/or the stronger women who are finding their information in books or on the web. Either you quit ahead of time and let go, believing all to save your own sanity and ignorance or you learn and fight the system. Fight those who will tell you over and over again that you cannot do this. You cannot birth a 10lb baby. You cannot birth with low fluid. You cannot birth a 6lb baby. You cannot birth with high fluid. You are going to kill your baby.
So why go to childbirth classes. You've already talked to your OB and he's told you all he needs to. Or she has. A woman OB had to submit to the same system and have her humanity and female fellowship drained out of her or she, too, would have been a failure.
Face it. The futility of fighting the system leaves one drained and incapable.
It's easier to just stay home and watch "A Baby Story."